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“Harry was a great friend to my dad, Leroy Soeckels, while at the Care Center in Chamberlain. He was so kind and thoughtful and really took care of my...Read More ยป
1 of 3 | Posted by: Renee Schaub - Chamberlain, SD

“Our deepest sympathies to the Schoenhard family. Rest in peace Harry! ”
2 of 3 | Posted by: Betty and Sandy Mundlien - SD

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3 of 3 | Posted by: Brenda Johnson - Reliance, SD

Harold Gidion Bender was born in Dallas, SD on January 31, 1934 to Robert and Emma (Hoffman) Bender. Harry grew up in the Dallas and Gregory area. He entered the Army in November of 1956 and served his country until his honorable discharge in November 1958. Part of Harry's time in the Army was spent in Germany. Harry then transferred and served in the National Guard.

Harry was a trucker and hauled cattle and grain for several area companies. He enjoyed trucking and did it well. Harry married Vera Condon Dooley on December 19, 1969 and became the father to her four children. A few years later their son Andy was born.

When it came to fixing and tinkering on things--from cars and tractors to working with wood--Harry could do it. He was an excellent mechanic and carpenter.

Harry passed away on May 12, 2017 at Sanford Long Term Care in Chamberlain, SD at the age of 83.

Harry is preceded in death by his parents, son Andy, sister Viola, brother Leland, three step children Darrel, Tom, and Cathy, sister-in-law Judy Bender, nephew Mickey, and by his very special friend Ardean Schoenhard.

Harry is survived by his nephew Doug Bender, grandchildren Montana, Kalleigh, and Ashley Dee, his step grandson Chandler, step daughter Tina, daughter-in-law Kristi, brother Roland Bender, sister-in-law Darlene Bender, nieces Janet and Jody and nephews Terry, Waylon, and Greg, and friends James Schoenhard and Kaylene Schoenhard.

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Funeral services for Harold Bender, 83, were held Wednesday, May 17, 2017, at 10:30 a.m. at the Berean Church in Gregory, SD with Pastor Frank McMillen officiating. A visitation was held Tuesday evening at Kotrba-Smith Funeral Home.

Recorded music was "Precious Memories" by Jim Reeves, "The Old Rugged Cross" by Alan Jackson, and "God Be with You Till We Meet Again" by Jim Reeves.

Kathy Matthes was in charge of registration.

Kaylene Schoenhard was flower attendant.

Casket Bearers were Glenn Hoffmann, LeRoy Bender, Cal Hickey, Mark Hickey, James Schoenhard, and Brad Feyereisen.

Interment was in the I.O.O.F. Cemetery, Gregory, SD. Military honors were given by the Gregory American Legion and the National Guard Honors Program.